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White dresses. Flower arrangements. The first kiss as husband and wife, the first dance, the dinner and celebration with family and friends.
These are the things that come to your mind when you think about marriage. As a little kid, you dreamed of your wedding day and just knew it would be super magical.
You couldn’t imagine it any other way. You would look beautiful, your hair would be pulled back in a gorgeous veil, and the weather would never think to be anything other than sunny and perfect.
Then you actually get married and realize that it’s not all flowers and steak or salmon. You have to put in the effort on a daily basis and if you don’t, your relationship is going to be over faster than you even know it.
Read on to find out the keys to a successful marriage.

1) Be friends first
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Yes, of course, you’re no longer boyfriend and girlfriend – now you’re husband and wife. That’s a big deal and it’s a pretty massive change. There’s no way that you wouldn’t notice this.
But if you don’t act like the two of you are friends, you’re going to let all the ups and downs of life get in the way. Things won’t always be super great and you won’t be happy all the time. You’re going to have long, exhausting weeks at work. You’re going to have an epic cold that won’t go away for six weeks. You’re going to struggle to balance everything in your life, from your marriage to your best friends to your career and hobbies.
If you and your now husband stop being friends first, you might not be super compassionate toward each other when life doesn’t go as planned. And that would be a real shame since it would basically mean forgetting that whole “in sickness and in health” thing.

2) Be your own person
You can’t magically get rid of your life just because you’re married now. You need to still be your own person. If you don’t, you’re going to resent your husband for making your entire life about him… and that’s not fair since it will be your decision and your doing.
Think about what matters to you the most in your life. That Saturday morning barre cardio class? Spending a quiet Sunday afternoon baking chocolate chip cookies? Girls night out and trips with your friends and seeing your parents and sister on a regular basis?
Don’t get rid of your interests and hobbies or stop seeing the people that mean the most to you. It’s unhealthy to be laser focused on your relationship, and your husband probably doesn’t want to give up everything and everyone that he loves, either.

3) Have new experiences
You’ve probably seen tons of stereotypical married couples in movies or read about them in books. Or maybe you’ve experienced this firsthand with married couples in your life.
A lot of couples refuse to try anything new or get out of their comfort zones. They spend every single night of the week eating take-out and watching TV. They rarely go out, even to dinner at that pub around the corner, and they definitely don’t travel or take classes or get new interests.
And they wonder why they start to hate and resent each other. They’re super confused about why they think their married life is so boring.
Don’t be like those people. Chances are, you don’t want to be. You want to have new experiences with your husband and try new things. Follow your instincts and you will have a super successful marriage.

4) Enjoy every day
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Part of long-term happiness is making the most of each and every day. It might seem like it won’t make a difference, but if you’re in a bad mood most of the time, those days are going to add up. And soon you’ll forget to be grateful for this guy in your life and you’ll never appreciate him.
Enjoy every day of your life and truly make the most of this time that you and your husband have together. After all, isn’t that why you’re here on this earth, and why you’re even together in the first place?

5) Compromise (but actually)
Okay, so you of course know that compromise is a part of any successful relationship… and especially in any successful marriage.
But are you really prepared to do this? Are you really going to do something for your partner without resenting them or getting mad at them or secretly hating them for months and months?
That’s a lot easier said than done.
If you can figure out how to actually compromise, whether it’s about a little thing like whether or order pizza or Chinese for dinner or a larger issue like what neighborhood to move to, you’re going to be much better off.

6) Make your life as easy as possible
It’s definitely no secret that life is tough sometimes. You don’t get the promotion that you wanted… or even the job that you had your eye on. You lose friends and family along the way, whether because they get sick or because you have to cut them out of your life because they’re pretty toxic.
But just because life is hard doesn’t mean that you have to make it even more difficult. And of course you do this because everyone does at one point or another. But don’t make mountains out of molehills or think that something is an issue when it’s actually totally fine. Talk to your husband about everything that’s going on, and help each other fix problems, whether they’re issues in your relationship or in your own lives.
Making your life as easy as possible also means not sweating the small stuff. So what if he wants to spend Sunday afternoons watching baseball and hockey? Is that going to ruin your life and your marriage? Probably not. Actually, definitely not.

7) Lean on each other
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The whole point of marriage is to lean on each other and have a true partner in everything. If you forget that and don’t go to your husband in good times and bad, you’re not living up to your promise of being a wife… and you’re not letting him be a real husband, either.
When you’re in pain or worried about something, talk to your husband. That’s what he’s there for. Don’t suffer in silence or let things become a bigger problem than they have to be. And remind him that you will do the same for him when he’s going through something.

8) Grow together
It’s impossible to be in a long-term relationship and not change. While some people hate change because they think it’s a negative thing and they love the comfort of the status quo, if you reframe change as positive growth, it’s much easier to deal with.
Of course, a marriage is pretty much the most long-term relationship you can possibly imagine. So that means that you and your husband are going to grow. A lot.
But as long as you grow together, that’s going to be just fine. That’s another key to marital bliss because if one of you starts acting differently or changes careers, the other one needs to adapt and basically get on board.
This means truly understanding what changes your partner is making in their life and why… and always making sure to keep them in the loop as you grow as a person or in your business. You just can’t get away with not sharing this.

9) Don’t be too independent
The final key to a successful marriage? That would be understanding that yes, you need to be your own person, and yes, you need your own life. But you can’t be too independent.
If you want to act like you’re still super single, then guess what? You might as well get divorced right now and be on your own. You’re not alone. So don’t act like it. You have a partner in this life and that’s a good thing. That means being a part of each other’s worlds, from dinner dates with each other’s friends to bringing each other along to work events and family gatherings.
Be a team and you’ll win in the end. No one ever said that marriage was simple, but it’s a journey that is definitely worth it if you’re willing to put the work in.
As long as you can remember the entire point of being married – so you can help each other through the highs and lows of life, and oh yeah, have some fun along the way – you should have a totally successful

Sweet people often have trouble saying ‘no’ when they are giving so much already, and it’s important to learn how to conserve energy and be direct with people in a pragmatic way. If you spread yourself too thin, you risk burning out, health related stress problems and building resentment.
If you want to be helpful and loving to people without sacrificing your personal happiness, read these 10 tips I’ve developed as a bleeding heart that have helped me create healthy boundaries with work, love, friends and family.
If you suspect that you belong to the ‘Women who love too much’ club, you probably do. If you feel like you can’t focus because you’ve taken on so many volunteer positions or promised so many people you would help them, it’s time to reevaluate how you’re spending your precious energy before it’s squandered.
Many bleeding heart type of people take care of everyone but themselves, and then end up having emotional problems as a result. It’s essential that you find confidence to structure your life without feeling the need to help too much because you just can’t do it.
1. Keep a realistic schedule

Women who love too much often become overbooked with activities, things to attend, tasks to complete and promises to fulfill. Suddenly, they lose focus of being sweet and kind because they are pulling their hair out trying to find time to do everything.
Look at your to-do list and cut back. You don’t have to do so much. If you do less, you’ll have more energy to put into those projects anyway, and be more present with people throughout the day.
When we rush, we risk getting into an accident while driving or becoming sick from stress. You should never rush; always leave yourself extra time to get places, so you can remain peaceful all day long. If you have too much on your plate, it’s time to put some things on the chopping block.
American lifestyles are way too busy for people to keep a healthy and positive mindset. If you’re going to take care of yourself, you need time to eat healthy food and make your own health a priority.
While you’re doing your labors of love for your partner, children, friends and coworkers, make sure you take breaks to have healthy snacks, stretch and relax. It’s just like they say on the airplane, first secure your own air mask before helping others.
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2. Leave enough time to relax
You literally will be so much more efficient and helpful if you make time to relax every day and throughout the day. Music can help you relax. You need to let your brain decompress and not think about how you can help other people for a little while. Just be present to your surroundings and take in the sights, smells and sounds.
It took me a while to understand how important it is to relax. If you push yourself too much and neglect the need to have fun, you risk becoming depressed and it can lead to problems in your relationships.
While you have everyone’s best interest in mind, you can become a stress case if you don’t actively do nothing at least once a day. Simply watching a movie, reading a book, laying and looking at the stars or having tea with a friend can help you unwind.
I see lots of helicopter moms that try to be superwoman end up downing a bottle of wine every night just to deal with their stress. So take a bubble bath, play some reggae and dance around the house in your underwear before you end up taking life so seriously that you forget how to have fun!
3. Say no when it doesn’t feel right

Women who love too much often agree to things they really don’t want to do. It’s either because they feel obligated/guilty to do something or they have trouble being direct and saying what they actually want. This comes up in our jobs and our personal relationships.
If someone were to walk up to you on the street and ask for money, do you feel strong enough to say no? If you don’t, this is something you need to work on. Being too kind to people is actually being unkind to yourself.
If you’re getting too many responsibilities at work, and you feel like you’re buried under it, you need to speak up for yourself before you end up resenting your boss. They will respect you when you respect yourself and your time.
This is also important for women who are dating. Don’t be a martyr and try to help someone while you’re in a relationship. Women often overlook the behaviors of men with drug or alcohol problems because they love them too much. Sometimes it’s other issues, like gambling or lack of help with the family or just being disrespectful and not showing up when they make plans.
Men that disrespect women do not deserve a loving woman and you are only enabling them by staying with them. If they are verbally derogatory or physically abusive in anyway, at any time, you must realize you have a problem with healthy boundaries and get out of the relationship now.
4. Take time to think about things
Here is one technique that can help you create healthy boundaries. When people ask you to do things, they are probably used to you saying yes all the time. You can say, ‘oh let me look at my schedule and see if that will work.’ Or you can say ‘oh let me think about that.’ That gives you an opportunity to mull it over and see if it’s realistic for you to take on anything else.
The same goes for if a guy asks you out. You don’t have to agree to go out right away. Sometimes our impulse decisions are based on our old way of thinking, and just waiting to think about something can keep us from making poor decisions.
Take some time to consider if the guy really seems like a good guy or if he’s just a pretty face dangling a fancy dinner, trying to get what he wants. Your heart will know if his intentions are pure or not if you actually pause to see what your intuition says. You deserve to be treated as good as you would treat them.
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5. Carve out time to do things you like
That’s right; you have got to do things that are going to fill up your tank. Don’t just say you enjoy helping people because while that is true, your subconscious brain also wants you to know life is meant to be playful and spontaneous too.
Taking time to go hiking, to have a laugh at dinner with friends, shop for something you like but don’t need or to take a yoga class can give you the energy you need to carry on with saving the world through random acts of kindness.
If you tend to cater to the needs of others, you also need to cater to yourself. If you have a partner who wants to spend lots of time with you and smothers you with love, you still need to create healthy boundaries and take time for yourself to make sure you don’t lose your identity getting wrapped up in other people’s lives.
You see, nice women often feel insecure because they don’t allow themselves to be fabulous. They’re so busy people-pleasing; they lose balance in their lives. I’ve definitely been there, and you’ll find that if you give all your time to others, you’ll soon crumble.
You must remember to focus on the many important factors of your life which include social, financial, family, spiritual, romantic, career, goals, hobbies, physical health and eating. We often lose sight of something when we focus all of our energy on helping others. Suddenly, you look up and years have passed and you haven’t laughed, danced or doodled. So take some doodle time today and find balance.
6. Remind yourself that you don’t have to save the world
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Women who love too much take on too much and feel like it’s their responsibility to do everything. They think they have to solve poverty, save the environment and get everyone to understand how to eat healthy. Yes it is important we don’t ignore the problems of the world, we must fight to solve them, but we also must not bite off more than we can chew.
In the movie Australia there is a line that says “pride’s not power.” This reminds me of how important it is not to define yourself by how much you help others. If you allow your ego to build based on what you do for others, it will create an insatiable desire to sacrifice at your own expense.
Basically, what I’m saying is that you must do your best and forget the rest. Accept that you can’t do it all, and keep putting one foot in front of the other. Keep a good intention but don’t get worked up when you can’t keep everyone happy.
When you take the world off your shoulders and realize it’s not your responsibility to solve all the problems in the world, you will get your mental clarity back and realize you can help more if you focus on just one or two issues at a time.
We all know those people that flake out all the time because they have too many meetings and are pulled in every direction, it’s like a disease. They literally can’t decide where to help and their energy is scattered all over the place. Don’t be that girl, stay focused.
7. Don’t give your energy to people who mistreat you
This can be a really hard boundary to set up and it’s hard for loving, nurturing women to know when to say enough is enough. We take on other people’s problems and it weighs us down.
If someone isn’t treating you decently, the bottom line is, you must speak your mind and not put up with it. It’s old-school to keep things inside. Be bold, be courageous, and even if you know that person isn’t going to take it well, you need to get in the habit of drawing clear lines by saying exactly what is not ok.
You will have to burn bridges in your life, my dears, there are still people out there who don’t respect women. I don’t care how powerful they are; you stick up for yourself and don’t give them a minute of your time. A really loving woman sticks up for women’s rights, and sets an example for her friends and family.
8. Work towards one goal
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Try just focusing on one project at a time. You’ll be able to get enough sleep and do things thoroughly. Make sure you actually enjoy what you’re doing too. Demand to be fairly treated for your time and not just left doing someone else’s dirty work for a fraction of what you should be paid.
If you’re volunteering, still make sure you’re being treated with respect. If you’re a mother, let your kids know you will help them, but also show them how to take time for themselves by doing it yourself.
Write down your top goals, choose one and go for that. Make a realistic list of steps you need to do to accomplish your goal, and go about it with a sense of ease and relaxation, so you enjoy the process. It’s essential that we enjoy what we are doing while we give our nurturing energy. In doing so, we spread joy, happiness and teach others not to struggle.
9. Take time to get to know people before committing
When it comes to relationships, don’t let your niceness allow him to pressure you into one. You have every right to take your time getting to know someone. No doubt, men can be manipulative and they know how to tell you what they want.
Depending on what role models we have had, we may not really know how to have a strong voice. Well, today is a new day and you can find that strong voice right now. You can say, this isn’t working for me or I’m not doing all your laundry anymore. You can say how you really feel and be proud that you are doing the right thing.
10. Don’t overlook red flags
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Unfortunately, loving women have a tendency to be so positive they overlook the red flags and find themselves mixed up with people who take advantage of their kind nature. Creating boundaries means being less agreeable and soft. I know it might sound like I’m beating a dead horse but this is a hard shell to crack.
We are so used to overlooking red flags that we don’t even realize when something obvious is staring us right in the face. Your protective mechanisms need to be more like spider senses and cue you into people who might influence you to make poor decisions.
When you are a people pleaser, you may find yourself mixed up with crowds that are less than high caliber because you don’t want to judge them.
Well, stay on higher ground and lead an example from a distance. Don’t mingle with dirt or you’ll get dirty. If people have an unhealthy lifestyle, act in ways that are disrespectful to others or do things that are unkind, you really don’t have to be their friend. Be selective with whom you hang out with or you’re liable to end up involved in things you want to stay away from.

Imagine if every Android smartphone could transform into a PC just by connecting a display, keyboard, and mouse. Yesterday, February 21, 2017,Jide technology announces a new version of its Android-based software, Remix OS, that will live on smartphones but be capable of powering Android-based PCs.

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Remix OS by Jide Technology is an Android variant that provides a custom desktop interface. 

It is a mixture of the Windows OS and the Android OS; you get the characteristics of Windows on a mobile OS.

Remix OS for Mobile is a new custom ROM for Android, but it's quite unlike any other take on Google's mobile OS that we've ever seen. On your phone, Remix OS for Mobile will function "as close to stock Android as possible."Exact details on this are still sketchy, but expect to find your app drawer, home screens, widgets, notification tray, and everything else just like you'd expect it.

However, once you connect your phone to a computer monitor through a dock of some sort that Jide has yet to go into too much detail on, you'll be running the full-fledged Remix OS.

The feature is called Remix Singularityand the new operating system is Remix OS on Mobile (or ROM), and is scheduled for release in the second half of 2017.

Jide technology believes that In the next five years, roughly five billion people will be coming online, and when they come online, their number one choice will be the smartphone; an affordable smartphone, and that will be an Android. If your phone can replace [your PC], it’s a huge saving, and has a big impact to productivity.

Finally, Glo network issue has been resolved and the service is back again. If you happen to be a Glo subscriber, then you most have noticed the poor network reception for like a week now. According to Glo, the network issue was due to a fibre cut and it has finally been resolved.

So for those who subscribed for Glo data plan, you can pick up your SIM and start browsing. Also for those of you who were rocking the N0 unlimited free browsing tweak before the fibre cut, I want to let you guys know that the free browsing cheat is still blazing.

The settings still remains the same and it works with TweakWare, stark VPN, psiphon and other handler VPN.
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- Mohammed Dikko Umar was the Chief of
Air Staff of Nigeria for only two years
within which he allegedly amassed wealth
beyond his regular entitlements
- Part of the allegedly acquired illegal
wealth was spent on the purchases of
choice buildings in different parts of
Nigeria’s former Chief of Air Staff (COAS),
Mohammed Dikko Umar, actually bought
five choice houses to the tune of N2.38
billion, a Federal High Court sitting in
Abuja has heard.
Umar is alleged to have spent N2.38b on 5 choice
houses - witness
A former director of finance and
accounts at the Nigerian Air Force
headquarters, Abuja, Air Commodore
Salisu Abdullahi Yushau, who made the
revelation, further told the court that
the choice houses were bought in
Federal Capital Territory, Kano and
Umar, who served under former
President Goodluck Jonathan between
October 2010 and September 2012 and
facing money laundry charges, was said
to have directed the payment of
N558.2million to himself monthly as
upkeep allowances and this was apart
from his legitimate salaries and other
spoils of office.
Yushau said he was he was sure that the
buildings were acquired with the
upkeep allowances while he gave details
of how the houses were bought using
different names.

The Nation reports that Yushau made
the revelation as the first prosecution
witness in the charge filed by the
Economic and Financial Crimes
Commission (EFCC), accusing the former
COAS foreign currencies to the tune of
N4.8 billion.
The report added that while being led in
evidence by lead prosecution lawyer
Sylvanus Tahir, Yushau revealed that he
participated in the purchase of the
houses upon instructions from Umar.
He added that Umar spent about N140m
to renovate two of the houses.
Umar was in court as the witness
“NAF was receiving about N4 billion
monthly (a little above N4billion, about
N4.1 billion). However, the actual figure
that we usually paid as salaries monthly
was between N2.3 to N2.4 billion. The
balance of about N1.6 billion was made.
“From this N1.6 billion, the sum of
N558,200,000 was usually set aside for
the upkeep of the Chief of Air Staff.
“The sum of N120 million was also
earmarked for the office of the director of
finance and accounts. But on
assumption, I told the Chief of Air Staff
that my office did not require that
amount of money.
“So, the sum of N120 million was put
under the Chief of Air Staff’s office, which
he was using for visits to NAF
formations and other welfare issues.
“The balance of about N1 billion was
used for training, maintenance of NAF
assets, fleet, and other priority projects.
“These projects included barracks
construction, renovation of barracks
accommodation for officers and men, and
any other projects that the Chief of Air
Staff may wish to undertake.
“This sum of N558,200,000 was usually
converted to USD and taken to him at
home. The money was usually brought to
me by the Finance Officer, Headquarters
NAF Camp, Group Captain Bukar.
“On some occasions, I asked the finance
officer to accompany me to his (COAS’)
official residence at Niger Barracks, so
that he could witness the delivery of the
money to the Chief of Air Staff. This
practice lasted up till his retirement in
Sept. 2012.
“I believe he was using the money for
whatever he wanted to do. However,
there were some properties which he
purchased and I believe the money could
be from the money we usually gave to
him,” Yushau told the court.
He said one of the houses is located on
Vistula Close, off Panama Street Abuja.
He said the COAS got a second property
at Plot 1853 Deng Xiao Ping Street, off
Mahima Mohammed Street Asokoro
after he said he was tired of living in
Maitama. He allegedly bought the
second house for 850 million.
The third house, he said is located at
Number 14 Audu Bako Way, Kano and
was bought from a Sudanese for N250
Umar’s fourth property is located at 8,
Kabala Road, Kaduna and was allegedly
bought from a former commandant of
the Armed Forces Command and Staff
College, Jaji, Air Vice Marshal Sunday
Ali Leks.
The fifth property, according to Yushau
is at Plot 3B, Street 2, Ministers Hill,
Mabushi, Abuja and was bought as at
N500 million.
The case has been adjourned to
February 16 for constitutional trial.